Sonya Lea is represented by Levine Greenberg.


In the twenty-third year of their marriage, Sonya Lea’s husband, Richard, went in for surgery to treat a rare appendix cancer. When he came out, he had no recollection of their life together: how they met, their wedding day, the births of their two children. All of it was gone, along with the rockier parts of their past—her drinking, his anger. Richard could now hardly speak, emote, or create memories from moment to moment. Who he was wasn't.

Wondering Who You Are braids the story of Sonya and Richard’s relationship, those memories that he could no longer conjure, together with his fateful days in the hospital—the near-death experience and eventual traumatic brain injury. It follows the couple through his recovery as they struggle with his treatment, and through a marriage no longer grounded on decades of shared experience. As they build a fresh life together, as Richard develops a new personality, Sonya is forced to question her own assumptions, beliefs and desires, her place in the marriage and her way of being in the world. With radical candor and honesty, Sonya Lea has written a memoir that is both a powerful look at perseverance in the face of trauma and a surprising exploration into what lies beyond our fragile identities.

David Shields awarded an international memoir prize for an excerpt from the book, which also won an Artist Trust Award in Seattle. Excerpts from the memoir have also appeared in The Southern Review, Brevity (VIDA issue), Cold Mountain Review, Side B, The Legendary, The Prentice Hall Reader, and on the Wondering Who You Are blog. 

"This meditation on love and loss left me filled with wonder. Lea considers every possibility—the full span of understanding, from science to shamans to sex—in an effort to rediscover her husband and, in the process, what makes us uniquely human: our memories of who we are. Words like "honest" and "intimate" don't even begin to describe this remarkable journey." -Brian Castner, author of The Long Walk: A Story of War and the Life That Follows

excerpts From Wondering Who You Are

Guernica - "Shattered"

Salon - "How My Husband Forgot Sex"


Splash Magazine - LA, NYC & Chicago

UR Magazine Chicago

Good Housekeeping
New York Post

Podcast with Christopher Ryan, Sex At Dawn

PMP Research Foundation Review